The Golden Bachelorette: Chock Chapple Should Be Canceled (His Controlling Behavior With Joan Vassos Is A Red Flag)

Chock Chapple may be a front-runner for Joan Vassos’ affection on The Golden Bachelorette, but his controlling actions don’t sit well with viewers. Chock has been leading the competition since he received the prized first solo date with Joan. The 61-year-old insurance executive offered Joan a feeling of security, something she had been lacking since the death of her husband, John Vassos, in 2021. During their hometown date in Kansas and overnight in Tahiti, Chock remained a top contender to potentially win Joan’s heart.

Early on in The Golden Bachelorette season 1, Chock made the difficult decision to leave the mansion after the death of his mother. His loyalty to his family mirrors that of Joan, who gave up her spot on The Golden Bachelor due to a family emergency. Fortunately, Chock returned to the mansion, and he and Joan have been inseparable ever since. He is now one of two remaining contestants alongside Guy Gansert. While Chock’s connection with Joan is undeniable, his behavior on The Golden Bachelorette has drawn criticism from viewers and the other men.

Chock Chapple Is Way Too Controlling

He Acts Very Possessive Of Joan

Chock exhibits several red flags in the way he controls Joan. He was quick to proclaim his love for her, expecting she would return the sentiment. Chock speaks confidently about their future together without asking for Joan’s input. Even though there are still other men in the competition, Chock treats Joan as if she owes him her undivided attention. This is unfair to Joan and the other men.

During a group date at a bowling alley, Chock snuggled up to Joan and positioned himself in a way that separated her from the other men. Several of them commented on his behavior, noting that it was inappropriate in a group setting. Although Joan didn’t seem to mind, the men felt it was unfair of Chock to make such a bold physical move.

During his hometown date in Wichita, Kansas, Chock invited Joan to join his family at a ceremony honoring his late mother. Many viewers feel this was a manipulative move that forced Joan into an intimate setting too early in their relationship. Joan had never met Chock’s mother, and she seemed out of place at the somber gathering. By having Joan attend the ceremony, Chock puts unfair pressure on their relationship. He likely knew Joan would have felt guilty breaking up with him after they shared such an emotional experience.

Joan felt invisible after her husband's death. She admitted she had never felt unsafe while married to John, and when he died, she lost her sense of security. Chock can provide Joan with the comfort she needs, but he might be taking advantage of her vulnerability. He knows that Joan struggles with feeling unloved. By constantly proclaiming his love for Joan, he’s using her weakness to get ahead of the other men and pressure Joan into choosing him.

Chock May Not Be Right For Joan

His Pushy Personality Doesn’t Fit With Her Needs

Chock’s controlling nature could be detrimental to his relationship with Joan. It’s never acceptable for anybody to control another human, especially one they are in a romantic relationship with. Joan is already in a vulnerable position as she sorts through her potential suitors while navigating her grief. If Chock’s controlling behavior continues, he deserves to be canceled and removed from the franchise.

Even if Chock wins The Golden Bachelorette, his relationship with Joan will face challenges. It would be difficult for them to merge their lives and build a future together. Joan has been outspoken about her devotion to her family and the life she has established in Maryland. She’s mentioned she would be willing to pursue a long-distance relationship to avoid the logistical problems that broke up The Golden Bachelor’s Gerry Turner and Theresa Nist.

Based on how Chock acts at the mansion, he doesn’t seem like he would be on board with a long-distance relationship. Chock wants Joan’s attention all the time. However, Chock runs a successful insurance company in Kansas, so he would be unlikely to relocate to Maryland. Joan is determined to find a partner who respects the life she’s built, and that may not be Chock.

Joan is taking things slowly as she processes her feelings of guilt for dating after her husband’s death. She often speaks about her love for her late husband. Joan wants to find happiness with a partner who will respect the life she has, giving her space to navigate the new changes. This is incompatible with Chock’s love-bombing and aggressive pursuit of Joan. If he can’t respect her need to take their relationship slow, he and Joan shouldn’t be together at all.

Chock May Not Be Ready For A Serious Commitment

His Previous Long Engagement May Be A Red Flag

Before meeting Joan, Chock had a nine-year engagement with a woman named Kathy. Sadly, Kathy died after a short battle with brain cancer. Chock and Joan have bonded over the losses of their loved ones. Nonetheless, Chock having such a long engagement with Kathy raises concerns. His reluctance to marry after nine years could signal that Chock has a problem with commitment.

Chock is still grieving Kathy’s death, which was incredibly painful for him. Although having gone through similar losses brought him and Joan closer, Chock may not be ready to move on. His tendency to control Joan could be a sign that he’s afraid of losing her after what he went through in his last relationship. If Chock isn’t ready for another relationship after the tragedy he’s experienced, he and Joan have little hope for a future together.

Joan’s relationship with the recipient of her final rose will undoubtedly change after The Golden Bachelorette ends. Contestants at the mansion can get caught up with the competitive aspect of the show. It’s possible that being around the other men makes Chock feel threatened, resulting in his possessive behavior toward Joan. But if he is as controlling as he seems, Joan would benefit from ending their relationship sooner than later. She deserves a partner who honors the life she has, not one who forces himself into it.