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NEED TO KNOW
- Scheana Shay is sharing details about her affair with Eddie Cibrian in her upcoming memoir, My Good Side
- The Bravo star remains adamant that she did not know he was married to Brandi Glanville at the time
- âThis was preâsocial media, so it wasnât like he was posting pics of his family in matching pajamas in front of a Christmas tree,â Shay said
Scheana Shay is coming clean about how she âdidnât see a single red flagâ while unknowingly having an affair with Eddie Cibrian.Â
The Vanderpump Rules alum, 40, is going from reality star to author with the upcoming release of her memoir, My Good Side. In an excerpt shared with Entertainment Weekly on Wednesday, July 2, she details exactly how she fell for the actor, 52.
Shay claims she had recently graduated from Azusa Pacific University in May 2006, when she moved to Los Angeles to âmake a name for myself in the entertainment industry, whether that was as an actress, a TV host, or a news reporter,â when she met Cibrian.
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The then-21-year-old began working at a âprivate memberâs cigar lounge and restaurantâ where âevery A-list celebrity, director, writer, and actor hung out.â
A few months later, she and Cibrian had their first encounter when he came in to play poker on a Tuesday night, which became a regular part of his schedule.Â
âIf you were to ask me when I was growing up what my exact type was, to a tee it was Eddieâtall, dark, and handsome, with dimples. The second we made eye contact, he smiled at me with those dimples, and I melted. How could I not? Heâs undeniably a gorgeous human,â Shay wrote.Â
Cibrian was married to Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Brandi Glanville, now 52, from 2001 until 2010. However, it would be a few more years before the series would air in 2010, with Glanvilleâs castmate Lisa Vanderpump. Vanderpump Rules debuted on Bravo in 2013.
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Shay admitted her relationship with the actor didnât begin immediately, but claimed there was potential from the start.Â
âEddie was the sweetest, funniest, most charismatic, consummate gentleman Iâd ever met. He always made me feel like I was the only girl in the room when I was working,â she wrote, claiming other patrons just wanted their drinks and to be left alone.
The reality star went on to explain why him being married never crossed her mind.
âThis was preâsocial media, so it wasnât like he was posting pics of his family in matching pajamas in front of a Christmas tree,â she said, in addition to him allegedly never wearing his wedding ring around her.
âTo be clear, Eddie wasnât my boyfriend (at least not exclusively). But we did start a physical relationship at the end of 2006, which was a weekly booty call,â she later continued.
According to Shay, their hookups would always be on a Tuesday night after her shift ended and he was done with his poker game. The pair allegedly spent lots of time in public together with friends and even on his boat, cruising âaround Castaic Lake taking photos together.â
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âThe frightening thing is that I totally thought I could end up with Eddie; he looked how Iâd always imagined my future husband would, and he treated me well,â she said.
During their fling, Shay mentioned that she was young and not fully ready to commit to just one person.
âThat was when I started seeing Jesse Metcalfe, the sexy gardener from Desperate Housewives,â she wrote.Â
She recalled seeing him as the star of 2006's John Tucker Must Die, âthinking what a dream it would be to date him (not his character) âwhich I didâ in early 2007.Â
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Shay described him as an âawesome guyâ who was focused on his sobriety, took her shopping at Neiman Marcus and would also serenade her with âHey There Delilahâ on his guitar. However, they they âgrew apartâ and things picked back up with Cibrian.
Shay went on to explain why she never visited Cibrian's house.
âIt really felt like we were building something. Did I think it was weird that I never went to his house? No! He lived in Calabasas, supposedly. And I certainly wasnât making the trek to Calabasas in 2007, when Ubers didnât exist, and I had less than $1,000 to my name,â Shay said. âIt was so much easier and more fun to hang out in Beverly Hills or Hollywood, and my place was closer and more convenient. I didnât see a single red flag, especially since we werenât exclusive.â
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Eventually, someone at her job tipped her off to him being married, but when she asked him, he denied it.Â
Shay wasnât the only one Cibrian was seeing outside of his marriage. He also began seeing LeAnn Rimes while still married to Glanville. After he and Glanville divorced, he married the âCanât Fight the Moonlightâ singer, 42, in 2011.
Glanville shares sons Jake, 18, and Mason, 22, with Cibrian. The RHBH star has since made peace with Cibrian, Shay and Rimes since the affairs.Â
My Good Side arrives July 22 and is available for preorder now.